The most empowering prayer in the ministry of soul ties is the prayer to break inappropriate authority that others might have over a person. I have seen a spirit of slavery come into a child’s life and exerciseinappropriate authority in his/her adult relationships numerous times. This spirit of slavery gains entrance through domestic violence, domination, oppression, incest, verbal and emotional abuse, rape, etc. When we pray to break soul ties and then renounce any inappropriate authority someone has had over someone’s life, the person can then exercise power to make healthy choices about relationships. We have seen healing for many people in both abusive relationships and sexual relationships they were unable to break free of.

The Savior Boyfriend or Girlfriend

The Lord says very plainly that “bad company corrupts good character.” (1 Corinthians 15:33 NLT) There is a very effective illustration of this principle anyone can perform with a chair and one other person. Have the larger person stand on the chair. While you are standing on the floor, tell the person in the chair to pull you onto the chair with them. Just stand there; neither help them nor work against them. They will never be able to pull you onto the chair with them. Then, keep hold of both their hands and tell them not to let you pull them down to the floor. They will not be able to keep you from pulling them down to the floor. In fact, you will be able to pull them down with you very easily.

We ministered to a high school girl in this situation. She occasionally would date a boy to be a witness to him. Each time, instead of her bringing the boy to Christ, the boy brought her down spiritually. Her current boyfriend was a year older than she was. The boyfriend kept pushing the relationship physically, and as time went on, they kept sliding a little further down that slippery slope. She wanted to break up with him, but he was charming, and every time he came by her work or called, she would give in and go out with him. She was a strong Christian and did not give in, but she didn’t know how long she could hold her ground with him.

When it came time for her to break soul ties, she also broke the inappropriate authority. She brought all the gifts, cards, notes, and photos, threw them in the trash, and came away free. She went on to become a summer camp counselor at her church. While on the bus ride to this camp, the girl sitting next to her was in the same type of relationship herself. The girl on the bus explained how she wanted to break up with the boy who kept pressuring her physically, but she just couldn’t seem to break ties him. You can guess the rest of the story. Our young evangelist friend got out her book and led the girl to break soul ties so that she, also, could make a healthy choice for her life.

Authority is Given

Authority in adult relationships is given, not taken. We can choose to allow family members, friends, spouses, supervisors, or church leaders to have authority in our lives or not. As adults, we don’t have to submit to the authority someone had over us as children. When this revelation comes to seekers during this ministry, they experience freedom.

Redemption

To prepare for the ministry of breaking inappropriate authority, take time to pray, and ask the Holy Spirit to reveal those persons from your past or present who have had inappropriate authority over you. Consider the following:

• Authority figures siblings or peers who have been dominating, controlling oppressive, manipulating, use of guilt trips, inappropriate sexual advances or acts against your will.
• Relationships where you may have felt slimmed by someone by their actions or talk.
• An authority figure who has been overbearing toward you and you could not say no to.